A few weeks ago, after a particularly frustrating day and situation, I ran across this quote.
“There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who won’t jump puddles for you.”
Immediately I had this momentary desire to post this on Facebook. In perfect passive aggressive vague-booking style. 🙂
Then I hit “discard post”.
I understand and am sympathetic to the meaning behind this quote, but for some reason, I decided not to post it.
A few days later I would begin to see why.
This past Sunday during church I saw my phone light up with a call from my brother.
He was calling to let me know that our childhood friend Mike has suddenly passed away.
I felt like I was hit in the gut.
I still had his text messages on my phone from a few days earlier. This can’t be real. Please God….
Over the next few days the memories of all the years spun round and round in my head. I re-read our conversations, I hummed the first song I ever remembered him writing, I prayed for his sweet Momma, who I have always called my second Mom, for his Dad, his fiancé Alli, and his brothers who adore and love him like crazy!
Within a day or so, I began to see this huge outpouring of love to Mikes family. I mean huge.
People were calling, texting, opening their homes, traveling, taking off work and school, volunteering, saying “I love you”, and sharing memory after memory via social media, phone calls and texts.
It was during one of my trips down memory lane that I thought to myself…if only Mike could see how loved he is.
Did he even realize how much he influenced people?
Did he know that hearts would physically ache because he wasn’t sitting across the table?
Did he know ears would try their best to remember the last time they heard the strings of his new Martin being played by his hands?
Did he know when we said we were proud of him, we really meant it?
Did he know that we would cross oceans for one more conversation, one more laugh, one more hug?
Did he know that last night there would be standing room only as we said farewell?
I realized last night that it matters not what someone will do or not do for me. Its true, they may never even jump a puddle.
I decided I will do my best to always cross the ocean.
It may be an ocean of unforgiveness.
It may be an ocean of pain and regret.
It may be an ocean of low self worth.
It may be an ocean of selfishness.
It may be an ocean of loneliness.
Why will I cross it?
Because of love.
Because of a perfect love that crossed a great divide for me and for you.
Because of love that promises to never fail. Even when we do.
Because of the love I saw last night in a little white country church that sat on top of a hill.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
1 Corinthians 13:7-8